Trust

Pud,

My girlfriend gets really jealous when I talk to my ex-girlfriend over email, MySpace, etc. The thing is, I have no intention of cheating on her! But still, my girlfriend doesn’t trust me at all.

How can I prove to her that she is, and always will be, the only woman in my life? I want her to know she’s the only one.

Thanks Pud.

Steven
22 years old
White Plains, New York

Steven,

No, the answer isn’t “marry her.” Then she’ll just be a jealous wife.

Fortunately, the answer is much simpler than that.

All you need to do, is say nice things about her to your friends, while she’s around. Specifically, work into casual conversation with your friends about how your girlfriend is “the only one,” how great/funny/smart/pretty she is, and so on.

Make sure she’s present and listening while you talk her up.

The reason this is so effective, is because it paints a picture for her of how you act when she’s not around. Specifically, the picture says you’re not cheating on her — rather, you go around saying great things and thinking great thoughts!

Set up a dinner amongst your friends, invite your girl, publically praise her, and enjoy her newfound trust.

Pud

8 Responses to “Trust”


  1. 1 Anonymous January 3, 2007 at 10:18 pm

    thanks for the advice, pud. you da man!

    🙂

  2. 2 Anne January 3, 2007 at 10:24 pm

    Let’s face it…she probably trusts you – it’s the ex girlfriend’s intentions she doesn’t trust (this is usually just for immediate ex’s – not a few ago).

    The only thing she knows is that this girl used to love you and she still may being that she’s not bitter and wants to remain your friend. Keeping up your friendship with her gives the ex an “in” for a possible move on you at any time.

    I say, kill the relationship with the ex if you truly aren’t interested in having more sex with her. If you do this you’ll most likely find the your girlfriend isn’t worried about other girls who may be your friend.

  3. 3 Breeze January 4, 2007 at 12:10 am

    Hi. Pud! You know too much!!!

  4. 4 Ziffy Womper January 4, 2007 at 1:14 am

    If a girl is jealous, she is either insecure your relationship, or more likely about herself.

  5. 5 Peaches January 4, 2007 at 12:48 pm

    i just recently found myself in a similar situation with my boyfriend. it’s a little uncomfortble to know that someone you’re in love with is still carrying on the same relationship with their ex that they had while dating (minus the sex). it’s like emotional cheating. I agree with anne, successful relationships don’t involve exes.

  6. 6 Melissa R. Garrett January 7, 2007 at 5:26 pm

    “the only woman in his life” should be his current girlfriend, and that doesn’t involve his ex

  7. 7 Taylor January 13, 2007 at 3:06 am

    Why is this pussy talking to his ex when he has another gf? Why would he be talking to his ex at all?

    Christ, loser.

  8. 8 Mr. GrownUp January 18, 2007 at 11:45 pm

    I’m surprised how many people think this person should let go of the ex-girlfriend. Is it so hard to imagine breaking up with someone and still maintaining a platonic relationship with them? If you’re in a situation where someone is asking you to stop contact with someone else so that they can feel more comfortable, you need to start asking yourself some questions. Like:

    1) Do I have a history of cheating on this person or other people, and if so, can your current gf/bf ever trust you? If they don’t trust you now and you’ve given them no reason not to do so, then they may never trust you.

    2) Will this person ever trust me to have any friends your preferred gender? In this case, do you have any female friends who are not ex’s and are not close friends of the current girlfriend? How does the girlfriend act when that person comes up?

    Life is too short to waste on jealous, untrusting people. Dating and relationships SHOULD BE easy.


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