Be yourself

Pud,

I observe people and it seems that everyone is composed of 9/10 of themselves, but that extra 1/10 of their personality just isn’t there.

Know what I mean? Why is that?

Steven
19 years old
Dayton, VA

Steven,

People stop being themselves around the age of 14. That’s when everyone tries to assimilate and be someonethey’re not. At that age we’re more concerned with what other people think of us, than what we think of ourselves. To put it into your language, we’re 1/10 ourselves.

Everyone outgrows it to eventually become whole. This is why you never see a 90 year old man trying to pretend he’s something he’s not, just to “fit in.” Same with 2 year olds.

This is part of the maturation process. But the problem is that people mature at vastly different rates. The people who grow out of it fastest generally have siblings of similar age of both sexes, and parents who treat them like real people rather than kids.

Furthermore, kids who outgrow it early generally become more popular in school. I could get into more about why popular kids are popular, but that’s not within the scope of this question.

Anyway, we all know people who are constantly trying to impress us and say “just the right thing” all the time. It’s irritating right? They’ll outgrow it. Varies for everyone.

I was 24.

Pud

5 Responses to “Be yourself”


  1. 2 Levois December 7, 2006 at 11:25 am

    There are some people who never outgrow it aren’t there.

  2. 3 Dan December 7, 2006 at 3:29 pm

    Pud,

    That’s an insightful response and I like it. But, in my humble opinion, the reason is very different.

    The fact of the matter is that people are far more complex than we are able to appreciate, you and I included. Every person we know has an overly generalized opinion of who we are and what we are about. The same goes for our thoughts of others, including even the people we know best. As I understand it, the human mind has an amazing ability for social situations but within limits. To store and process all the information about so many people around us, affecting us, we simplify the equation. In this way, we are able to make quick decisions and judgments in everyday situations.

    My answer to Chris’ question, with that in mind, is that he sees some of the personality which may not agree with his conceived ideas about the people he knows.

    Also, I’d like to say that I really enjoy the page Pud. It’s great reading and quite insightful.

    Thanks
    Dan

  3. 4 Anonymous December 7, 2006 at 5:43 pm

    2 reasons popular people are popular.

    1. People judge a book by it’s cover if you can make your cover look good so to speak your popular.

    2. The people who are real Others find them open minded and edgy They sort of live threw them. On the other hand this can back fire and they can find them selves as outsiders as well.

  4. 5 Anonymous December 8, 2006 at 2:51 pm

    I think I was about 24 or 25 myself. Why it took so long I may never know but better late than never, RIGHT? It has been the best thing to ever happen to myself, HA!

    Later Pud, I dig this shit…


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