Meet the parents

Dear Pud,

I’ve been dating this guy for about 3 months. About a month and a half ago I went bat shit crazy over him, but he told me he didn’t want to be my boyfriend.

I apologized, and we continued to see each other.

Last weekend he took me to meet his parents. I didn’t ask, either — out of nowhere, he told me he wanted me to meet them.

What’s going through his head? I’m so confused.

Thanks a bunch,
Female, 25
Nashville, Tennessee


His parents called him last weekend to invite him out to dinner. They asked if he wanted to bring a guest. He took you along because he enjoys your company.

He also thinks you’re kind of cute.

But he’s not interested in dating you exclusively. At least, not in your current form. You’re almost there, but not quite ______ enough (fill in the blank with cute, funny, similar, smart, sane, perverted, or something else. you know what it is.).

But there’s good news. You’re in the position to have an even more interesting and fulfilling relationship. Tell him you’re cool with dating other people. Tell him you want to be his “friend with benefits.” Tell him you want him to be with other girls, and that it turns you on to hear about it (get the dirty details… they will turn you on, promise.).

This isn’t about sex. This is about getting him to let you in. He likes you just enough that he’ll open up if you want him to.

You’ll develop a uniquely intense and passionate relationship that’s new to both of you. You’ll learn more about him that you ever thought you would. And… you’ll probably learn what makes him fall in love.


10 Responses to “Meet the parents”

  1. 1 anju christine November 24, 2006 at 6:21 am

    hmmmmmmmmm really dunno how practical dat suggestion s ;)…. but ya, if you jus decide t throw al ur practicality out of the window ,…. den mayb.. i really dunno

  2. 2 Anonymous November 24, 2006 at 7:40 pm

    Pud failed to mention that once you’ve hit that “friends with benefits” stage in a relationship, you’re pretty much stuck there. It’s going to take an act of God or at the very least, Congress, to kick you into girlfriend status.

    Trust me on that one.

    This guy your dating probably does like you. However, my guess is, he doesn’t like you “enough”.

    If you’re ok with seeing other people, use it to your advantage and hopefully soon you’ll find someone that’s equally as crazy about you. After all, that’s the least you deserve.

  3. 3 Anonymous November 25, 2006 at 1:28 pm

    Everyone’s got their own way of “getting into” a relationship. I say just go with the flow and let things develop on their own. Once you begin labeling relationships it begins to feel as though your “stuck.” Just go with the flow… if he really likes you, I’d assume that pretty soon he’ll want you and you alone.

  4. 4 Anonymous November 25, 2006 at 7:25 pm

    Spoken like a true guy. 99% of women are NOT turned on by descriptions of their guy sleeping with other women.

  5. 5 Anonymous November 26, 2006 at 2:58 am

    friends with benefits is like ice cream with dirt in it.

    …also, maybe that chick’s problem was that she went temporarily “bat shit”

    …when people do that around me I freak out too.

  6. 6 Anonymous November 26, 2006 at 3:06 am

    hmmmmm…… sounds good but there really is NO telling what hes up to.maybe he heard they [parents] think hes gay?or they were mad at him [real pissed] and he knew they wouldnt scream in the presence of company.joking oh what a tangled web we weave!!

  7. 7 Anonymous November 26, 2006 at 11:23 pm

    I think he wanted to have sex on his parents bed while they were in the other room. Crazy fetish he has.

  8. 8 Heidi on Vashon November 27, 2006 at 12:59 am

    I’m guano (going to) agree with PUD here. This guy is taking advantage of the fact that you like him, and you’re a showable gal, obviously. The invitation is not indicative of new or increased affection. Take the free dinner and distraction and be on your merry way!

  9. 9 Anonymous November 28, 2006 at 3:18 am

    interesting way to go about that one.

  10. 10 Anonymous December 7, 2006 at 5:48 pm

    i’m gonna have to agree with the “anonymous” comment. hearing about a guy you love screwing another girl is never a turn on (unless of course you’re a bisexual woman) but in general, no it’s not cool. In fact, that would make most girls even crazier.

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